How Do I Hug My Partner From My Wheelchair?

Anonymous asks, quote:

My partner and I have trouble hugging with the chair in the way. Is there any way to make it less awkward? I have one extending foot pedal, one that sits under me. Going from behind the chair seems to be the easiest so far, but then I don’t get to hug back very well.

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A hug is never truly awkward if it’s genuinely offered and willingly received. 😊

That being said, I completely empathize with your situation. Giving or receiving a hug from your wheelchair can be difficult and even a literal pain in the neck. However, there are a few things you can do to make it better.

When you want to hug your partner, they could try kneeling down next to your chair. This position offers you two benefits: you can look them in the eye when you hug them and you can both keep your backs and necks straight while hugging.

If your partner is standing, you could always go in for a hip hug: wrap your arm around your waist and gently press your head against their side. Depending on how tall you and your partner are, where your head actually ends up may vary.

Finally, there’s always the option of transferring out of your chair and into shared seating like a couch or sofa. It’s not as spontaneous as other options, but it’s definitely satisfying.

No matter what you decide to do, I recommend you talk to your partner about what works or doesn’t work for both of you. Don’t be afraid to actually set aside time to practice physical closeness and intimacy while using your wheelchair. It never hurts to have a plan and be on the same page.