Cut Along the Bias
“You’re really fast!”
“I’m amazed by how independent you are!”
“You’ve got it all figured out now, don’t you?”
“Well hell, you don’t need any help at all!”
When people say stuff like this to someone who has a disability, they’re not so much giving a compliment as much as they are tipping their hand at how little they think of disabled people in general.
Maybe if people spent less time being surprised by our bodies and more time being surprised by their biases, the world would slowly become a better place.